I’m sure you’ve heard multiple times that you should say 'YES' to everything, for those who say ‘YES’ live a more fulfilling and exciting life… WRONG! 'NO' wins hands down every time.
For the few this might be true, but for us living in the real and very modest world it couldn’t be any further from the truth. “NO” in my vocabulary is one of the most used and key of the opposite offered by those promoting “acting” at life rather than designing it and living by it!
I’ve made the mistake before early in my career believing that saying yes to everything would bring more…. In fact as I reflect back now, at some 16 years in this industry, the true positive changes came as a result of the NO!
Where am I going with this?
As you progress in life, life itself becomes more valuable, the clock is ticking and you have little time for distractions beyond that which services you… a common topic of conversation with clients and why I believe it key to address now.
Do you consider yourself someone who attempts to please others and the cost of your own happiness?
Do you find yourself saying, “YES” to people, knowing that that you should have said no?
Do you tend to put others’ needs before your own? Perhaps knowing beforehand that they are taking advantage of you.
If you answered yes to any of the above, it may serve you to become better at saying “NO.”
It is suggested that “NO” avoidance stems from an internal struggle between plugging into our own sense of power and a simultaneous desire to cater to, or foster, a relationship with others around us.
When we say YES rather than NO, we bring about a false sense of peace, later being replaced with apprehension and resentment. We defer to the relationship with NO regard for our power and ironically end up undermining our relationship in the long run.
It’s important to be able to say NO so you feel empowered while still maintaining your relationships with others.
Saying NO helps you establish healthy boundaries and enables others to have clarity about what they can expect from you and under what terms.
Think about that last statement for a moment – UNDER WHAT TERMS!
For the next few days, pause before readily accepting and think about under what terms you have been operating and how life might look if you start to control rather than freely accept.
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