Why You Keep Attracting the Wrong Partners

Benjamin Bonetti Therapy Online Coaching


Do you have difficulty finding a suitable partner? Are you consistently drawn to partners who aren't right for you?

If so, it's essential to examine the reasons behind your attraction to unsuitable partners. Here are some possible explanations:

Unresolved issues from past relationships: Unresolved issues or emotional baggage from previous relationships may subconsciously lead you to unsuitable partners. Take the time to address these issues and heal from past hurts before starting a new relationship.

Low self-esteem: Poor self-esteem might result in settling for less than you deserve in a relationship. When you lack self-confidence, you may be more likely to accept mistreatment or compromise your values to satisfy your partner.

Unclear relationship goals: Without a clear understanding of your desired qualities in a partner and relationship, you may be more susceptible to attracting incompatible partners. Reflect on your values and priorities, and identify the characteristics you seek in a partner.

Behavioural patterns: If you notice recurring behavioural patterns in your relationships, consider examining those patterns. Are you consistently drawn to a specific type of person? Do you have a habit of pushing people away? Identifying and altering these patterns can help you attract healthier partners.

Fear of solitude: A fear of being alone might lead you to settle for an unsuitable partner. Remember that being single is preferable to being in an unhealthy relationship, and it's okay to take your time finding the right partner.

Attracting the right partner requires time and effort.

By scrutinising your patterns and behaviours, improving your self-esteem, and clarifying your relationship goals, you can enhance your chances of finding a healthy, satisfying relationship.